How big is big enough?

Penis size has been a hot topic for quite a while now. Throughout history mankind-men, in general-have searched for ways to enlarge their sexual organs. In the Middle East a large penis has long been associated with a high degree of masculinity and ample fertility. They developed special exercises to increase its length. It is also speculated that the Pharaoh’s of ancient Egypt would actually hang weights from their phalluses in order to stretch out and lengthen them. It seems that nowadays little has changed. For a man to have sexual prowess and be preferred by females as a sexual partner, and having a large penis is of utmost importance.

In an informal survey of my colleagues, friends and loved ones, I found that among the men I questioned, the average erect penis size ranged from seven to eight inches in length and from three to four inches around the girth. I asked the women to describe the penis size of their mates, and the average penis size that they had encountered in the past. These women came up with nearly the same figure, although leaning toward eight inches in length and three inches wide.

What do women think about penis size?
I also found that there is surprisingly little correlation between the size of a man’s flaccid penis and that of his erect penis. As one female friend of mine put it, a man can either be a “shower or a grower.” According to her, a “shower” is someone whose limp phallus measures up almost equally to the size of his erection. A “grower,” on the other hand, can display a deceptively short non-erect penis that increases greatly in length when stimulated into an erection.

There was an overwhelming consensus among the women interviewed that flaccid penis size is unimportant as long as the erection sizes up. While the female partners of men who “grow” rather than “show,” mentioned that they might take a small amount of pride in showing off their mate’s penis at the pool, hot tub or sauna, they say that if he has the right size when it comes time for sex, it really doesn’t matter how much he shows at other times.

Impressing sex partners with a large sized penis
Yet regardless of whether you grow or you show, the end result must do a good job in impressing-and pleasuring-a woman. Unfortunately, however, it appears that some men are just not achieving total satisfaction for their female counterparts. While women measure their partners’ average penis sizes at about eight inches, they resoundingly voiced a desire for them to be longer, and wider.

“If he could get even close to that size,” said one female as she pointed to a twelve-inch dildo set vertically on her coffee table, “I would be a much happier woman.”

Indeed, many responded by saying that while they generally loved and enjoyed their male partners, there was something missing when it came to the deep, penetrating satisfaction that only a large penis can deliver. Most women would prefer to experience sex with a man whose penis length is at least ten inches, while some desired even longer penises with lengths of eleven and twelve inches. Others expressed hesitance when asked if they would enjoy penises of that size. Usually coming with a girth of three inches, a nine to eleven inch long penis can cause pain for some women when it penetrates during sex. However, many said that they would enjoy it very much.

Nevertheless, a big penis ranks high on the list of “most wanted” features in a man. And so it is that because the majority of women would, given the choice, prefer a long, thick penis to something with less reach. This, not surprisingly, seems to be directly related to the relative confidence levels of men, varying according to the sizes of their penises. Of those with whom I spoke who admitted penis lengths measuring at six inches or less, there was a markedly diminished degree of confidence that they exhibited towards sexuality and the ability to sexually please their female partners. One close friend of mine explained how his former partner would repeatedly try to comfort him by telling him that size doesn’t matter, and that she got pleasure from the way he made love, and not how big his penis was.

“I just got tired of it,” he said, pointing out that although he was sufficiently skilled in bed, the sight of a small penis right before sex put a damper on everything, and he and his partner could never reach the levels of ecstatic power exchange that to him, sex is all about.

Everyone wants a large penis
But apart from sex, many of those I spoke to who had smaller penis sizes described a general lack of confidence in other areas of life as well. From these conversations I gathered that having a small penis is very likely to cause low self-esteem and even depression in some cases. For many it seems to come and go in phases; while this week or month might not bring them any bouts of insecurity, a stray comment here or a disappointment in bed there might offset their mood and cause them to become somewhat apathetic, not performing so well in the workplace and in sports. Incredible as it sounds, some even avoid social settings because they harbor a secret fear that they might be “found out” if they end up taking a girl home, or if their partner signals something to her female friends which might indicate his phallic inferiority.

The men who claimed to have larger penises, on the other hand, demonstrated a much more jovial approach to sex and to life as a whole. Usually found at the head of an impromptu softball game or being promoted to managerial positions in the workplace, these men also expressed a much higher degree of sexual confidence. While it is possible that those with more gregarious disposition might lean towards bragging about a larger penis-whether or not it is true-the statements from their partners seems to back up what these men assert.

Based on the attitudes in today’s society towards sex and penis size, it is reasonable to conclude that a larger penis goes a lot further in reaching sexual and general satisfaction and confidence. But as with any personal issue such as this one, it is important to maintain a healthy dialog with one’s sexual partner.